Weekend minimalism: 10 quickies

Here are ten ways I moved closer to minimalism this past month. Perhaps these will kick off ideas you can use to become more minimal (or just plain declutter) in your home:

Photo credit: David Mao

One daily coffee cup

Think about your favorite coffee cup. Everyone usually has one, right? Consider making that your only cup. I packed away all but my favorite cup, a squat little black one with a handle that seems made to fit my hand. (I kept a generic set of six on the top shelf for company use.) I was surprised to find I missed none of my other cups so they are going in the donate bin. In fact, I loved the extra space around my favorite cup in the cupboard and my kitchen counters were clearer. Francine Jay, author of Joy of Less, calls this the joy of one.

Housekeeping of the mind

Remove all your ad preferences on your facebook page. Go under settings, the little icon in the far right corner and poke around looking for a section on preferences. It’s a visual reminder of how much information social media has on us all. This is a good activity to do while you are waiting in line somewhere and getting restless.

Family participation: set up a discard/keep station

Make cards that say “discard” and “keep”, set out the pile in a visible space and let everyone sort through it when it’s a good time for them. Accept the results without comment and get rid of the discards right away. Recently, I pulled all our teas out of cabinets and drawers, piled them onto our kitchen table; by the end of the day, everyone had sorted through what needed to go back into the cabinet.

Go bagless no matter what

Bring your own bags to the grocery store and, when you forget, find a way to still achieve the trip without accepting the plastic bags. (Cloth bags are strong and soooo quiet; now I can’t stand the plastic one-use bags.) One day this month, my husband and I swapped cars and it wasn’t until I was in Aldis on a major grocery haul that I realized I didn’t have my bags. My work-around meant putting my Aldis purchases directly into my car, then using a laundry basket when I got home to shuttle everything into my kitchen.

(Casually) Watch your word count

Minimizing words is a powerful bringer of peace. Over-communicating, then overthinking over-communication is tiring. Okay, maybe this is just me. A few weeks ago, I was overthinking the silence that followed a far-too-wordy reply I made to a friend. Rather than chase the situation with more words, I just released the matter and choose the reality that the silence was nothing more than the end of a conversation. Emotional energy is finite and realizing where to spend that energy is good mind housekeeping.

Photo credit: Giulia Bertelli

Release unemployed hobby supplies to find other jobs

Consider your hobby supplies to be your staff. If you are not putting them to work, give them their release papers and show them to another enriching employment opportunity.

I had two craft projects this past month: painting a few mirror frames white and making beeswax food wraps. Because I was not particular about what shades of white I needed, I easily found two used cans of gray primer and a few cans of white for free at my city’s environmental center. I finished the project within a week and, once the paints were idle, they went straight back to the  environmental center. When my beeswax project was done, I texted a crafty friend a photo of my remaining supplies and asked her if she would like what I had. She said sure and we made the handoff an excuse to have a coffee and chat. If both of us were pressed for time, I would have left the supplies on her porch.

Be a museum curator. Move your art.

If you have decor in your home, move it around as a museum curator does. By rearranging it, you’ll likely find pieces that no longer work. Replace them with nothing. Get used to wall and shelf spaces staying empty for a while and you just might love it.

I had art above our bedroom doors in our hallway. I had hung the decor almost a decade ago and I just stopped seeing it there. I pulled it all down, as well as the hooks on which it hung. Every piece was filthy with dust … remind me why I would want to make housekeeping a harder job? They are getting replaced with nothing.

Pretend you are moving away.

This is simply a thinking-ahead category rather than an action item. Pretend you are moving a great distance in a month. Evaluate the “travel-worthiness” of your biggest furniture pieces. Would you take those or would be cheaper to replace them in your new locale? This is the first step towards either saying goodbye to these things or keeping alert for more dual-purpose, transportable replacements. For me, I found that our table and six chairs were something I was just enduring rather than enjoying so it is getting replaced … someday. We have no indicators that we are moving but it’s good to keep light on our feet.

For smaller possessions, limit surfaces to three items or less when at resting position. This philosophy was borrowed from a minimalist on youtube whose home I admire. Simple and inspiring.

Fighting the paper tiger

I made a casual effort to chip away at incoming junk mail. Rather than mindlessly tossing junk mail in my recycling bin, I paper-clipped them to a note that told me to unsubscribe. For a few concentrated minutes each week, I requested removals from mailing lists, usually by online means but sometimes via a standardized snail-mail letter. This was completely worth the (small) effort. I’ll elaborate more in a future blog post.

My incredibly-shrinking book collection

I had 50 books at the beginning of the weekend. I gathered them together and held each one in my hands. After my joy-sparking session (one of a series), I ended the weekend with 35 books. Private book collections should only include already-read-it favorites and no more.

Organize your home like a grocery store

Photo credit: Marjan Blan

Recently, I was in a grocery store with an unfamiliar layout to me. I was looking for pickle relish. “Hmmmm, okay so it is likely to be with the condiments, olives, and salad dressings …”, I thought. Sure enough, I found it without asking for assistance when I caught sight of a long row of ketchups in one aisle.

Let’s take our cues from a grocery store’s efficiencies. Here are a handful of those that come to my mind:

Takeaway 1: Stores want you to find things without asking their staff.

Stores are smart that way. They want you to find things. By yourself. Because almost none of us is willing to hunt down an employee and ask. Stores are arranged so that shoppers can find things and the store scores a sale. They use what I call “intuitive storage”, storage so straightforward and simple that it needs no explanation.

Before konmari, when my family would ask me where something was, it meant me getting up and helping them look because I myself had no idea where the item might be. Or wait, I take that back. I had about 15 ideas where the item might be … and helping them look was easier than describing those 15 places.

Shall we even talk about how much I would harrumph and complain to have to help them find something? No. No, let’s not go there.

When we use intuitive storage like a retail store, we get to be smart that way. Our housemates get to find their things. We arrange our homes so that they can find things and we score some relaxation time.

Takeaway 2: Stores group similar items together.

This experience with the pickle relish reminded me of the wisdom of storing like items together that Marie Kondo recommends somewhere in her “Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up”.

Before konmari, my storage was scattered. None of it was intuitive. None of it was “self-serve” like the stores’ arrangements are. My household set-up relied on my memory of where I last put it and frankly, I have better things to occupy my brain. Don’t we all?!?

Post-konmari, I am now training my family to find things in their new homes. Not extensive training, mind you. Just a bit of training. The week I started writing this blog post, my youngest asked for more notebook paper for school. Instead of helping her look for it, I had her think through what category notebook paper was in (office supplies) and then think through where ALL our office supplies were kept (in a repurposed five-drawer filing cabinet in the garage). She found the paper on her own and thereafter found other office supplies when she had another need for them. The same goes for cleaning supplies (lower shelves of the hall closet) and toiletries (upper shelves of the hall closet). My family can think of the category of the item, then its general storage location and usually have success finding it on their own. And I get to occupy my brain with something else.

Takeaway 3: The best stores keep a tight inventory.

Part of a retail store’s success is keeping a tight inventory based on what will practically fly off the shelves. They stock for today’s customers with today’s needs.

What if you took this mindset into your present inventory? Saving those baby toys for five years until the next child comes along would make little sense. Not devoting 10 minutes every season to cull out expired medicine and unused personal care items would be unwise. And that junk room? Oi vey, don’t get me started!

When we look at people who are successful at what they do, they often keep a tight and knowledgeable inventory of their possessions. Or, shall I say, they keep a tight inventory of the possessions needed for their success. A professional NFL player is likely to have an extremely effective home gym, even if the rest of the home needs to be maintained by a household staff.

In the same way, I have seen you-tuber with a ba-jillion subscribers detail their visual and audio equipment inventory and it is like a well-choreographed dance to see them present what is on the shelves they devote to professional equipment. I believe that the wisdom they show in their inventory is part of their success, a small part maybe but definitely a contributor.

Takeaway 4: Grocery stores use “choice architecture” in their displays.

When a grocery store wants you to purchase one item over another, they make the favored item a convenient reach. They place it on a end-cap. They position it in the middle shelves.

Blogger and skilled researcher James Clear of jamesclear.com calls this arrangement “choice architecture”. Why not employ the same choice architecture in your kitchen? I place all our non-refrigerated fruit and vegetables on our kitchen island. Right on the counter. The day or two after a grocery trip, the produce so fills the counter that it looks like it will start rolling off. It gets eaten.

I have done experiments in which I placed all that produce in big bowls on the island counter. The more I contained it, the less my family ate it. I often discarded half-bowls full of rotting fruit. I took away the bowls and the produce once again was consumed.

By contrast, I place our potato chips and junk-y snacks in the far reaches of the lowest corners of the pantry. It is out of sight and hard to reach. Really, you have to be a contortionist or crawl on hands and knees to get them. We sometimes even forget it is there until we have guests and realize “Oh yeah, we have something common to serve up here!” The produce on the counter is consumed faster than the chips because it is more conveniently placed.

I use the same technique in our fridge. I rotate the food in there every other day or every third day. I bring produce and the plain yogurt to the edge of the middle shelves. The milk with the soonest expiration date is at the front. The cheese that should be eaten soon practically leaps at you from the center of the middle shelf. And so on. This frequent rotation takes me about 30 seconds to do. And as home manager tasks go, I like doing it.

Takeaway 5: Caaaaaarrrrrrts! Grocery stores make life easier with their carts.

Bonus! I just thought of a fifth takeaway. Carts! Grocery stores make roundups of items easier with the carts they offer. When tidying up, make one lap around your community rooms with a basket or container in order to return any items to their proper places.

 

So … group similar items together, keep a tight inventory for today’s needs and use choice architecture. And get yourself a cart. Which one are you going to try first?

6 life-simplifying phone changes

If my mobile was a person, she would be someone who delights in interrupting me … LOUDLY. INSISTENTLY.

My favorite konmari categories are the ones you can do while standing in line somewhere. You know … sort of a life declutter. I do these a lot and most of them involve cleaning out the contents of my cell phone.

This past week, I took stock of all the ways my phone did not spark my joy. I know that things are not people but Marie Kondo’s personification of objects in her best-selling “The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up” sometimes helps me make decisions.

If my mobile were a person, she would be someone who delights in interrupting me, both audibly and visually. LOUDLY. INSISTENTLY. All the time. Even when I am driving or having a conversation with someone face-to-face. Or the appetizer just arrived. Or the toddler just wants to keep playing peek-a-boo. Or.

Yes, I asked my phone-as-my-friend to remind me of things (and to keep reminding me of them) but here in the present moment, her enthusiasm for that task matched my insistence back then, a few days ago. Back then, I thought remembering that thing was the most important and vital thing that needed to get done. But … right now, I am BUSY doing something else on the phone. Or not on the phone. Couldn’t my phone-as-my-friend see that this present moment was more important?

So I changed my phone experience to spark more joy. These changes only take a few minutes and are the perfect way to feel productive while you wait for the next train, for the pharmacy to fill the RX or for that next bathroom stall to open up.

Here are the improvements I made to my iPhone, most of which are found in the Settings app:

1 – I took out all the pop-up banner notifications for all apps and texts. No more banners appear and block my view of what I am working on at that moment. (Check under Settings, then Notifications)

2 – I enlarged and boldfaced all the typefaces so that they are easy to read. (Settings, then Display & Brightness, then Text Size and Bold Text and View Zoomed)

3 – I took out all the custom ringtones and went with the “bamboo” sound and the vibrate function. I dialed down the volume too. Now my phone gives me a wiggle and a delicate sound to tell me something needs to be checked … when I have a moment. I do not need to know who is calling me or what is alerting me. I just need to know that I need to check my phone later. In a few minutes, I will know the whos&whats&wheres and reply when my attention is singularly focused. (Settings, then Sounds & Haptics)

4 – I FINALLY set the notifications to stop whenever I am driving. This was long overdue. (Settings, then Do Not Disturb – scroll to the end of the options)

5 – I selected the setting that turns the screen amber at sunset and back to blue at sunrise so that my digital life is more sleep-friendly. (Settings, then Display & Brightness, then Nightshift)

6 – I set a consistent bedtime and wakeup alarm schedules, one for weekdays and one for weekends. (Clock, then Bedtime)

My phone now works for me instead of the other way around.